When I met Daniel, I was in love with another man. I was pretty sure I was going to marry this other guy and when my mom practically begged me to give Daniel a chance I remember thinking: “Why bother? I’ve already found my true love.” When that man asked me to marry him and I prayed about his proposal, it became very clear to me that I should not marry the guy that I’d known for 8 years; if Daniel chose to love me, he was the one I should be with and could love forever. I recognized Daniel’s great potential and I knew that together, Daniel and I had the potential to be a powerful force for good in building the kingdom of God.
My own revelation was reinforced by my grandmother who was afflicted with Alzheimer’s. She met Daniel the day that I met him and the first thing she said to me was: “Isn’t it wonderful that you have found your true love? I know what it’s like to be married to my true love for 50 years!” At the time I felt mortified. I didn’t even know Daniel, let alone love him! She had met the guy I was dating multiple times and said nothing of this sort to him! She met Daniel again a few weeks later, on his birthday and said to him: “Isn’t it wonderful that you’ve found the person you’re going to spend the rest of your birthdays with?” It turns out that people with Alzheimer’s can sometimes be quite lucid and inspired. Just last week we celebrated Daniel’s birthday together, the ninth such celebration.
Some of us have not had the opportunity to find an eternal companion. Some of us have divorced and are alone. Some of us are married to people who do not believe as we do. Some of us are married for eternity in the temple, yet we are still unhappy in our relationships. I have many dear friends who have found their expectations of marriage unfulfilled.
For people who never have the opportunity to marry, Elder M. Russell Ballard explains: “Through your faith and personal righteousness in keeping the commandments of the Lord Jesus Christ, you can qualify for all of the blessings our Heavenly Father has promised to His obedient children. Some of you may not have an opportunity in mortality to fulfill every righteous desire of your heart. But you can be certain that no eternal blessing will be denied you if you remain faithful and live the principles of the gospel throughout your earthly life.”
There is also hope for those in challenging marriages. Working with unhappy couples for LDS Family Services has opened my eyes to the myriad things that can go awry in our relationships. But President Spencer W. Kimball said: “While marriage is difficult and discordant and frustrated marriages are common, yet real lasting happiness is possible and marriage can be more an exultant ecstasy than the human mind can conceive.” Read the rest of this entry »